These relationship podcasts kill me. Listening to this one chick who was talking about her relationship. Her dude and her were cool at first, but then after the honeymoon period was over, conflicts began to dominate the space. They argued all the time and to her own admission, she wasn't the nicest person and treated him all kinds of ways. It was a bad match, to be frank. And when he left and started dating someone else, she was mad and confused. She said, "If he loved me, he wouldn't have done such and such..."
I rolled my eyes. In a way, she had a point. Folks need to stop tossing that word around so much. On the other hand, just because someone says they love you doesn't mean they are "in love" with you. Or put another way, they used to be "in love" with yo' ass but you acted so bad they bounced. See, quiet as it's kept, love IS conditional. A person can love you, but they're not going to stick around to be used and abused. The person with high self-esteem and self-love only sticks around when the love is reciprocal. I don't think I've heard anyone who loves themselves say, "I love you so much that it doesn't matter how bad you treat me. How much you disrespect me. How many times you curse me out. How many times you hit me. How many times you act a fool. How many times you disregard my feelings. How many times you betray me. How many times you let me down. I'm going to stay and love you forever until the day I die!"
So, the next time someone gets to talking about how much they love you and treats you poorly on a repeated basis, don't listen to that mess. Plan your exit like her ex- did.